Alrighty folks. Welcome back to SDYT the podcast. First off, if you're new to the podcast, welcome. And if you're a continuing listener, welcome back.

 

I appreciate you guys stopping by and listening for a little bit. This particular interview, we're gonna cover self reliance with a self proclaimed gardener farmer, former butcher, former marine.

 

This is gonna be pretty legit, guys. So without further ado, I'm Porter. I'm your host, and this is SDYT the podcast. Alrighty folks. Welcome back to SDYT, the podcast again on Porter. I'm your host.

 

And this episode, we've got a man out of Nashville, Tennessee, he was a butcher, personal trainer, marine and obviously father husband and son which I think in a lot of circles are probably the more important but we'll touch on a little bit of all of those.

 

First of all, welcome back to the episode's second Cody Anderson. Welcome. What's up dude? How you doing?

 

What's up man? Thanks very much for having me all. I really really appreciate it. Yeah. No. This is cool. You're actually the first person in this podcast interview history to say really twice in the intro. So congratulations.

 

Nice. Yeah. Starting on a high note. It's yours to lose. No man. I I appreciate you making the time and there's a there's a couple topics that I want to make sure get into but first before we do let's work on some relatability.

 

So our our listeners have an idea who they're listening to. So who you are, where you're from your background a little bit, what makes your character your character?

 

Who is Cody Anderson? Yeah. I was I was born in in Wilson County, Tennessee, is pretty much that connects to to Nashville, the area in Nashville.

 

Program my whole life on a hundred acre cattle farm. My dad was a cattle farmer, and a mom worked for a veterinarian clinic. So I grew up around animals, you know, my whole lot.

 

And then grandfather was a farmer, pretty much on both sides. And so, you know, kind of grew up in that type of environment. Watch a lot of John Lane movies back by day to put it that way.

 

So I I grew up around those types of things. We were tobacco farmers for a long time in the kids. It's probably the hardest work that I've ever done in my life. I commonly make the joke.

 

You hear people say, what was the best day of your life? And then, you know, some people respect that answer, oh, you know, when you had your first child or when you got married, that's gotta be when you got married.

 

Right? That to everybody. No. I was neither 1 for those. It was the day that we decided to stop racing tobacco to talk to us.

 

You're talking about some some hard work the the back of the age or hard work. But grew up, you know, just a little bit about and I grew up in that type of environment.

 

Actually, my father and was never we never had through a business figure of riding horses and and raising cattle. My mom was kind of the athletic 1 of the bunch. She played basketball and threw over basketball athlete.

 

So I was never grown up, you know, you hear a lot about, and you know me personally. But you hear a lot about the dads that are always trying to live to their children, not just make them good with the Bob o'clock.

 

Hey, you need to go run your miles and you get to bench press and swat rack where you're good in football or we need to be out, you know, playing baseball throughout the entire summer and all these the tournaments where you're a good baseball athlete.

 

I've never had that thrown up ever. Not 1 time did my dad ever tell me to go work out.

 

Not once in my whole entire life. What he did tell me though was when we would get up in the morning when the sun would come up, it was how you need to go feed and have everything fed before school.

 

We had to go feed all the animals. So it was he he never pushed me necessarily to be an athlete, but he did push me.

 

I don't even think he was I I think a lot of probably a lot of parents raise their children to to want to work hard and they they want to have a good work I don't think my dad was necessarily it was just that's what we had to do in order to make money to live.

 

So I mean, it was never like, I'm just gonna teach you a bunch of values. Because that's what we're supposed to do. It was we're just going to do this because that's what we have to do, and the values just kind of came along with that.

 

To grow up, you know, since I grew up on a farm, you know, my whole life, and I I kind of got into the athletic realm as I started getting a little bit older because my cousins play football.

 

And I just really, really enjoyed football. And I was kind of that hyper I have her child. You know, I can I can remember being a kid?

 

And my mom, you know, III had ADHD real bad and I still do. You'll see that a lot in this podcast probably. But I can remember as a child, my mom been like, hey, go outside and play, like, you're wearing me out.

 

This Joe play can leave me alone for 30 minutes. Right? And I would go outside and I would literally not come home until it was dark.

 

I can remember being scared running back home because I had waited too late. And it was already dark outside. I would be running back to my house, and we're not talking like 50 yards from the house, and we're talking like miles.

 

I would we had a hundred acres. So I would be in the woods You know, if you get dark, I was like, oh, man, I've got to make it out to where I can see the moonlight coming down the road to get back across the field to get back home.

 

So these days, you know, you think about it but children will never be allowed to do something like that. I was very fortunate as a child to grow up in a bible order. Sure. A lot of those places now are just developed.

 

I mean, obviously, they exist in some places, you know, and there's plenty of fly over states where there's still land, but it's not what it was 30, 40 years ago. Yeah, you're right. It's it's wild, man.

 

And I talk about this with some of my friends here all the time, but we're driving down the road and you'll see where I live, there's a lot of farmland, but you'll see these beautiful farms that have been up your whole lot.

 

Man. You know, I just wish I had the money to get something like that or live on a farm like that. And then it'll be an old farmer, and he, you know, he just he can't make enough money anymore.

 

To feed his family and you see it get put up for sale. When it gets put up for sale, real estate agents come in, they buy up all the land. And at 6 months later, there's a bunch of houses on it.

 

You know, a bunch of cheap houses that get built on, you know, 1 acre blocks. And they sell those houses for we're right now, and Mark was crazy. You know, 600000 dollars for 1500 to 200000 square foot house, like how in the world.

 

But that farm line is going now. It just you brace my heart, man. Every time that I I see a bunch of farm blankets sold because it just reminded you. Again, as a child, god had never been able to do anything like that.

 

That's what you were just saying. There's not a lot of stuff like that anymore. And it's right because, I mean, everything's getting caught up and and turned to some divisions.

 

Well, it's a matter of time. I imagine our parents Definitely different world. Yeah, it is. And I imagine our parents or even grandparents all said the same or at least similar concepts.

 

Right? Like out of the world's not what it used to be. Like you you can stop change. Obviously, you can't stop time, but I think I think you can sort of anticipate which directions things will go because they haven't changed that much.

 

Right. You know, people get a little bit more risky. You've got greedy people. You've got happy people.

 

You've got ignorant people. You've got you know, people that are just more academic and don't understand people at all. Land gets developed. Animals grow. Animals die like there's there's certain cycles of just nature that continue.

 

And I'm sure, obviously, firsthand on a farm, you've seen all of them. But how do you incorporate things like that in your life off the farm? You know, even Clark Kent went to metropolis.

 

Like how do you -- Right. -- how do you take farm life into the city or outside of the farm? I think I think values a huge part of that. 1 of the biggest things that you learn young and farming is that money is not everything.

 

And I feel like in today's society, what happens is we engrain in children at a very young age that money means everything. And I don't mean by directly saying paid money means everything.

 

Every Christmas, you know, right, Santa Claus brings thousands and thousands of dollars of presents to your doorstep. Right? Mhmm. And I think that there's nothing wrong with your child to have some nice things.

 

But at the same time, there is a balance of life between too much and too little and you have those children that sometimes don't have anything and they just get something small and it's the the best thing in the world.

 

I mean, you have kids that get everything in the world and they're unhappy. I think it's very, very important to have a good balance to understand what you can do, you know, and then what you shouldn't do sometimes as well.

 

And so when we bring money into our children, well, then they grow up, they think when they go to high school that they should just read books and they should just be smart in class, where they can go to college, where they can get a good paying job just to make money.

 

And so what happens is all that's constantly rolling, and what I tell people, this is like trade school.

 

I love this show. We as a family we watch the show, they're they're they're jobs a lot. Mhmm. Because family friend show, there's not pissing, there's not, you know, a lot of things on it.

 

And my kids love that show. And I love it because it it lets me know that there's still some people out there kinda like me that thought they College is a bad thing. There's nothing wrong with college, and that's not what this is.

 

But it's saying that college If you don't go to college, it doesn't make your value less. You always had a problem with that, and I understand there has to be a Even when I was in rigor, I always had a a big problem with rank.

 

And what I mean by that, it's not a matter of perspective someone that's been in the marine corps longer.

 

It was a matter of people that had been in the marine corps longer than you were disrespecting. You were because you were a lower rank.

 

Sure. You'll see some and you'll see people that you know, you have to have guys you're a perfect example of this, actually. Josh In which aspect of this? Right. You know, but you were older when you come in the wrinkle.

 

Yeah. And so what happens is, as you know, it's however you and you were a a land school with us? 23, 24. Okay. So you have 20 23, 24. I mean, at that point, most people will graduate college. Yeah. You know what I'm saying?

 

You come into your first unit and you're 23, 24 years old, you've got a guy that's let's just say he's 19 years old and he's disrespecting a 24 year old that probably has way more life experience at that point because he has a high ranking.

 

Mhmm. I mean, he's a corporal.

 

Maybe he's a senior last corporal. Yeah. Sure. And so what happens is is I I think that those tops of thing, even money is not the issue technically, money is not the issue because the the root of all evil is a love of money.

 

It's not money itself. And that's true. And power is the issue.

 

Technically, we should be saying it. And that's more money that you have, more power than you have a lot of the time. And, you know, you see that with our government a lot of times and see that with really anybody.

 

A lot of times when you have more things and you're getting to call all the shots, the more power And we all get caught up in that on myself included.

 

When we teach our children that from a very young age, you know, I we do stuff like on my my youngest son.

 

I have a stepson. He's my oldest. He's 11. And then he just turned 5 in March, and I have a dollar in his group. Well, Wyatt is the name of my middle child, my son.

 

When we're doing stuff outside a lot of times, my children get to take turns of being in charge of stuff, different paths that we do on the farm. So sometimes it'll be my my oldest son.

 

He's I can, hey, we need to do this, we need to do that. What I'm doing is I'm prepping them for good leadership skills. Sure. I can remember the first time the first time my son ever got to be in charge, my middle 1.

 

The first thing he did was he's like, I'm in charge. He's like, else, you do this and you do that and you do this because I said so. And I was like, man, it's crazy that you know, he's that young and that's the way he thinks.

 

And I'm like, but it's because think about the first time that you really get to ever be in charge of anybody. Mhmm. We're probably in your twenties.

 

Yeah. So it's it's it's the same thing. Like, I come over the first column. When I become a corporal and wrinkle and they really started putting me in charge of things, I can remember, like, I didn't really know how to leave.

 

It's because I had never been talking. How many times have you really sat down with your father for the for the individuals that raised?

 

You would be grandparents or whatever the case may be. And they said, hey, we're gonna teach you about leadership today. But never. It doesn't happen. Yeah. It never happened with me, and I grew up on a farm all a lot.

 

You know, teach trying to teach him good traits to a young guy each more about working with somebody and the individuals that are working for. You're technically working for them whether they're working for Survey leadership. Exactly.

 

Oh, that's that's little things that that we try to do here to again, going back to that money point, you know, the more money you have, the more power you have, a lot of times that makes you kind of bark orders, and and everybody look at me and try to I think our society as a whole, everything is about going to college and you can make a lot of money.

 

And I think back to our original point, you were talking about how do you apply that with people in the inner city. Don't take something for granted as far as when you wake up in the morning, you get to kiss your children by.

 

I heard something the other day that I really really liked and it was It was a guy, and he was he's on a podcast, actually. He was talking, and he set up there's 2 2 other individuals that were on the podcast with him. He's alright.

 

I'm gonna give you 10000000 dollars. Would you take that? They were like, oh, absolutely. Without a shuttled doubt, I would take that. He said, alright. He's like, now I'm gonna give you 50000000000 dollars would you take that?

 

They were like, oh, I you know, I would absolutely. I I know exactly what I'd spend it on right now. Mhmm. Alright. Now here's the catch. Would you take 50000000000 dollars.

 

I I get to give it to you, but you don't get to wake up tomorrow morning. Never lie. Well, no. So why aren't you living life every single day? It's like a billionaire. He's like a 50000000000 dollars is not worth it.

 

You don't get to wake up tomorrow morning. Why do we walk around with our heads down or are always negative and things are just so bags up? Because life just a day is worth more than 50000000000 dollars even.

 

That's what what you're saying to me. And I'll call you. Yeah. Of course. And it was just Yeah. That's cool. It's a really cool perspective because it it makes a lot of sense.

 

If you think about it, you could have all the money in the world. But somebody said, hey, you're not gonna get a wake up tomorrow morning, though. How many people would actually take that money?

 

I was a bad man, I would say very, very, very, very few. Yeah. It's interesting when you put it that way because then value that people place on their time isn't necessarily always publicized.

 

Right? But to what you said earlier, the love of money being the root of all evil that point you made a few minutes ago.

 

And then valuing your time is what in this example in this podcast is what people are holding higher above money, well then their time must be appreciating more or faster or compounding more frequently than what their money could anyways.

 

Right?

 

If people are looking at valuing their time as being something that's important to them to the point where they would turn down say 50000000000 dollars, But people are just willing to squander it when save the dress is on or what is it?

 

Say yes to the dress is on, you know? Yeah. Say yes to the dress. Yeah. Like, I don't wanna do anything, take time off, take time to yourself watch TV. That's 1 thing. Right? But all things in moderation and so then you step up to yeah.

 

Well moderation is 1 week out of every 3 where I do absolutely nothing and watch TV and don't go to the gym. Yeah. Well, that'll turn into 2 weeks next month. And 3 weeks the following.

 

It's strange how it works backwards when you're talking about time I don't know, maybe just because it's not a tangible asset or maybe because it's easy to take it for granted when you You can't see it, you can't touch it.

 

And I think that's hard for for a lot of people to just take that that I guess the concept in is I can't reach out and touch it like I can money.

 

Time is absolutely everything. And just like I said, there's a balance to everything. Well, you gotta work. You know, you gotta make money.

 

True. Absolutely. I think a lot of people don't put the value on saving money as much as making money. I make a million dollars a year, but I spend a million to do for wanted to be working so hard to make a new dollars.

 

Mhmm. So I I think Gary V is a big guy that I like listening. And I love listening a lot of that stuff and the reason is because a lot of you know, I've always felt like this.

 

You know, the people to put too much time on trying to impress other people, you know, brand new there's a lot I don't have a brand new vehicle. I mean, I wish I had a brand new vehicle right now.

 

Right? What is the what is the reason and the purpose of why we're driving was the reason of purpose why. When we go into a certain place, we have to put on a suit and look a certain way.

 

You know, it discussed me when I read something on Instagram when I was looking through it and it showed up to a homeless person. I mean, every comment I read was, like, bum, is that the POS blah blah blah blah blah.

 

I was just like, man, what have we what have we come through in the world? You know? Could he be an individual that if you give him 5 dollars he goes out and buy more drugs. Yes.

 

Absolutely. Could be that individual. He also be the individual. He could give you 5 dollars Right? He wouldn't help his neighbor out, that was also homeless. Or he went and actually got him something that he Yes. Tops don't know a lot.

 

To be thrown on the same category. When a cop does something to a black individual that shouldn't be done, and it would say all cops are bad. We we know all cops are not bad. Mhmm. We know not all black individuals do bad things.

 

We know not all white individuals us versus any other race. So while we see an homeless person and wrap them all up into the same concept that we all hate, which is, you know, all cops are bad.

 

So they all call they're called people who are homeless. Right? And you gotta treat that individual, like an individual, and not like a giant group.

 

You know, you I hear my I've had friends who's like, well, I don't give I don't give money to homeless. Did you talk to an individual? Well, you mean you don't give money to homeless because you're grouping them all together.

 

And that I mean, There's a lot of homeless people in the world, man. But I give money most of the time even if I know in the back of my brain, my piece is probably gonna go do some time.

 

But what the point is is that I made a good effort decision to do something for individual and it's not on me what he does with that after that.

 

That is now up to him in order to make a good decision or not. I think taking that opinion with a grain of salt what somebody does after your, I guess influence has passed is out of your hands.

 

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Alrighty folks. Welcome back to SDYT the podcast again on Porter. I'm your host. I'm sitting here with Cody Anderson out of Tennessee. We're talking about all sorts of stuff concerning self reliance.

 

More specifically, though, first off, welcome back to the podcast. And Cody, welcome back, brother. Thanks, man. Appreciate it. Appreciate that for having me. Yeah. No worries.

 

I really, really appreciate it. Where we left off in that last piece though, we were talking about treating people with respect, whether they're your workers, your co workers, your employees, even your employers to a certain degree.

 

But I'm curious really just throughout your life. You've had obviously fathers, father figures, coaches, mentors, leadership in the military, people that you've trained with as coaches or nutritionists, whatever.

 

How do you view the value of that relationship and respecting people and taking initiative to help somebody grow, but meeting them where they're at.

 

First, to find out what they want. What what's your perspective on all that? Yeah. I I think a big thing, you know, respect, obviously, goes both ways.

 

I think I think everybody knows And I think a a huge part of respect starts as a child. And this is the reason why I'm always talking about, you know, trying to develop my children to be good human beings when they're young.

 

Because that that is where respect is gonna come from. Now, are you respecting your are you making your children respect you out of fear?

 

Are you are making your children respect you out of education? And learning that if you want to be a part of society, you need to be able to communicate with people in society.

 

You know, I've had a lot of mentors. I had obviously a great father growing up and brothers and sisters, aunts and uncles, and I always had a great support system, but you know not not everybody has that support system.

 

That's where mentors, coaches, my wife, as a teacher, that's a huge news portion.

 

You know, I had a lot of great teachers pull up as well. I think for me, I played football growing up and I think for me football coaches were a massive thing.

 

And I was always pretty athletic, and I was a pretty good athlete up like, you know, I'd run it back in high school. And when I was a sophomore in high school.

 

I played a lot. But boy, I was a sophomore. I was a junior. III started, and it hit on offense and defense. And then same way my senior year, I was all state, I believe, when I was a senior football player.

 

Got a few, you know, college scholarships and football. That is my school. I hated sitting in the classroom, 8 hours a day, you can't move, you mouth shut. That's not the teacher's fault. That's the education system's fault.

 

You know, you got to sit there and you got to do this and this is what you got to do. But for an individual that's not athletic and wants to be outside, moving around, you know, and stuff like that, it was it was torture to me.

 

And I always despised it so I didn't go to college and play football because of that. And I ended up joining the ring for it.

 

When I was in high school and I was playing football, it was a big, big thing because those football coaches, a lot of times people can see they can see the potential in you, but you can't see the potential in yourself.

 

You know, it's it's crazy. What we would do for other individuals, but what we won't do for ourselves.

 

You'll you'll make your kids eat good food, and you won't have cold, and you won't be able to do this and do that. And then it's 5 minutes after they go to sleep.

 

You'll drink a guy with some tea and eat a bag of cheese puffs. You're like, that we got that out of the way. Yeah. You know, so it's like we it it's it's crazy how we we do things like that.

 

And I think that's where, you know, we can kinda tie this stuff into respect, but you can't respect anyone else unless you respect yourself first, and I think that's massive.

 

And you have to take care of yourself first before you can give in your respect anybody else.

 

And that's just not talking about your coaches or your mentors, and that's talking about your wife as well. Your spouse, your girlfriend, your boyfriend, it doesn't matter. And it's the same way with your children.

 

I coach my stepson in baseball for a few years. It always kills me, man, will be the will be the game, and I'll watch a kid not do something good, whether it's going to put loft or the baseball field or whatever.

 

And then you hear either the dad that's coaching them or the dad from the crowd, just screaming at their child the whole time.

 

And it's very, very humiliating. I think the reason why I grew up with a lot of confidence was honestly because I didn't have that dad and we talked about it.

 

Surge in the first segment. But I didn't have that dad that drove us that week in the screen with me all the time. And it allowed me to build confidence within myself that when I screwed up, I wasn't a coach's son.

 

So when I would come to the salon, a coach was like, hey, man, like, dude, you gotta you gotta get going, you gotta do this, you gotta do that.

 

But I didn't have I wasn't hearing it from 3 different directions. You know, mom wasn't screaming.

 

Dad wasn't screaming. The coach wasn't screaming. My confidence just got crumbled. And so, me growing up with a father that didn't care. If we want or we didn't, he was just ready to get back to the house to work cattle the next day.

 

It honestly had helped me build a lot of confidence. And confidence is everything. When you build a lot of confidence within yourself, your life will be everybody will get a lot of people will say that's cocky.

 

But there is a complete different ant that has got plenty of difference in being cocky and being confident. And when you're confident within yourself, If your spouse cheats on you and you're like, life will go on, I will live. Mhmm.

 

But what that actually does actually makes your marriage better. When you're confident that you're ready raising your children the right way, you're you're it just it just makes life much better when you're confident with yourself.

 

When you have self respect, and that allows you to be able to respect others and treat others the way they're supposed to be treated. Now, then we would think that that would be something It's pretty simple in life.

 

But again, we see it all the time in different leadership positions. So how, if you're a boss of anything, let's just say that you're the job and you're the 1 who's calling the shots.

 

If your employees are coming every day, if they look miserable, you're doing something wrong. As the the individual that owns the company.

 

Period. And the reason is is because in a marine corps especially, tell everybody. I know this sounds crazy, but man, you're a really good job at leading, you know, being a main person that's being where we call it managing.

 

Right? We're all managers. Yeah. But in the, you know, the military world, it's, you know, it's completely different.

 

It's all about leadership. You know, but the vocal words are interchangeable management, leadership. Both the same time. And what I used to tell people was I actually learned how to be a good leader, I have lots of bad leaders.

 

When you see everything not to do, you learn like, man, this is this is not what you're supposed to do. I should probably do it the other way. And then that's how you become a good leader.

 

You know, unfortunately, in the military, everybody thinks that when you're marine, that you're, you know, you're 6 foot 2 and, you know, you get a perfectly shape and crystal blue eye and you're jack to the gills.

 

And, you know, they just image this guy and dress blue, but that's not always the case.

 

We know that. You know, obviously, the marines that you know, there's all shapes and sizes that make it military. There's all types of good people, bad people, and then people there in the middle, and we're all kinda learning it.

 

When you are in the military, especially like the Marine Corps, I think it's very, very important when we talk about this in the first segment, it it rained doesn't mean everything.

 

So I went from the Staff and Alclamation Officer Academy as a PFC.

 

It was my first unit right out of an armory school, and I was a gunsmith in a marine corps. So they sent me right out of an armory school to the staff, and our commission officer.

 

So for people that are listening to the staff on non commissioned officer Academy, all it is is professional military education or ranks. And you would get sent every time you got promoted.

 

You needed to go to these, you know, these courses in order to learn education either about that rank and how become a better leader and, you know, just different things that made you better for that rank that you were in.

 

You had to have this completed in order to get thrown into that train.

 

I was at the staff at the commissioned officer Academy in North Carolina, which is on Camp Jones. And our armory there was literally, like, 2 connects bought houses, side by side.

 

So it wasn't a giant armory with a bunch of weapons. It was just like hand me down weapons that had been broken for, like, infantry units. And they just sent them there.

 

They're like, hey, sergeant's course does a field op for, like, 1 night. Every course, you guys are just gonna pass these weapons out and we're gonna they're gonna they wouldn't say bang bang, and they're gonna bring them back to next.

 

Needless to say, those weapons were trash and the marine corps wasn't gonna pay for us to get parts and to fix these weapons.

 

Right. Because they weren't getting live fire. So what happens is is I went from the schoolhouse that I was saying, I got sent to this unit that did not fix weapons.

 

So here I am in armor, fighting at the bit, ready to fix guns, and, you know, take down the enemy. I get just sent to a unit that doesn't hardly even fix weapons. I was there for 3 years.

 

So what happens is is during that time, you lose learning how to fix guns a certain way or all these little things that you're supposed to be learned. Then the next thing I know, I'm a sergeant and I have a decision on my hands.

 

Do I do I want to get out of the ring court? I want to stay in for another 4 years. The whole reason why I joined the marine corps was to get deployed. You know, I want to be sent out against them.

 

They called me up and said, what do you want to do? Are you resigning or not? I'm like, while we're re signing, I want to go out against it. And I talked to my sergeant major, which was at the time, sergeant major Weber. He said, okay.

 

We can make that happen. We call us around all these units, and he says, our seg battalion marines has a armor position over there. They need a scale And so they're get deployed to Afghanistan in that within the next 6 months.

 

Palisox. Bad. Send me. Mhmm. So re signed up, they sent me a 79 marines. I show up over there with no knowledge, no experience over 6 weapons.

 

Right? Because I haven't been doing anything for the last 3 years. But I'm a sergeant. And here you've got Lance corporals and very young corporals that are in that unit that had been there for I don't know 2 years.

 

They do know how to fix weapons. They do know how to do all this. And so what happened was as I was in a predicament because staff sergeant that I had in time by far were staff sergeant till this day that I'd ever had leadership loss.

 

He's the armory chief, and I showed up and he said, what do you know about this weapon? I said, I know very little because I haven't been doing it very long.

 

Not necessarily my fault. Just it's kinda how the cards play. Mhmm. At the same time, I was also the youngest corporal or the youngest marine to every to ever be a faculty advisor for the staff's staff academy.

 

So -- Mhmm. -- because we weren't fixing weapons that much, when I was with the staff and our permission officer academy, they were like, listen.

 

These are this guy's just wasting his time here. Let's stick a couple other marines at the armory, their armors. Just take this marine that has a good PFT score, isolate listening uniform, really well at public speaking.

 

We're gonna send him to corporal scores to be an instructor. You know, hopefully, that's gonna help us out our money. So that's what happened.

 

I got taken out of the armory. They sent me to Corporal scores to be an instructor. I will come all of a sudden, the youngest faculty advisor in, like, the history of the marine corps because I was, like, 20 years old.

 

Yes. And I was teaching classrooms for I mean, we had our classroom was huge. I mean, 1 time, we had 97 worlds. Oh, wow. And our and our tenants there, not saying they all made it, probably after the initial PFT.

 

But all of a sudden here corporal Anderson has a young corporal teaching 97 guys that are the same rank as him. Some of these guys have been deployed multiple times.

 

You know, as an infantry guy, you may be a corporal, and you may be 6 years into the marine corps. You know, and here I am a corporal, just got promoted. I have 2 ribbons on my chest, and I'm trying to tell you how to do operations.

 

And, again, it's Right. So what you do happens is is, you know, I really had to learn how to talk to people that have more knowledge and really try to be humble there.

 

During that period. And so when I go to second battalion night marines, but this staff sergeant that I had, I keep just yelling at everybody.

 

I thought that's what you were supposed to do as a sergeant. That's why I show up, man. But I thought, man, this is what leadership is.

 

This is what you're supposed to do with the higher rank. So anytime anybody messed up, I just screamed out as loud as I could. And it was like the senior leadership in the in the company at the time loved it.

 

I just love that I was yelling at everybody. Mhmm. What was really what's happening was that I was devaluing myself as a leader. Because then, the youth, the leadership that was underneath me, what come to me for anything.

 

I was like, I I don't even like that guy. And then, not only that What happens, that individual that you've been yelling at for 6 months or whatever and gets promoted, and now he's the same rank as you.

 

Can you still yell at him at the same time? There's no, he can't. So what ended up happening was as I really started to figure out that that is not the way that you leave it. That's not the way that you get respect.

 

From individuals. And so in order for me to become a good leader, I ended up having to be a really bad leader first a couple of months or let's say a year and a half later, I kind of changed my tune a little bit.

 

Now all of a sudden, people respect me. I'm working with individuals that are working for me more than just telling them what to do and and trying to complete the mission.

 

What I found out was is that when you respect the individuals that work for you, And you're you're treating them like human beings instead of just a certain rank, just to complete a mission.

 

We have way more done. It was crazy of the amount of work that we got done when I was, quote unquote, cool with the guys that worked for me more than when I would just boss them around it than what to do.

 

I found that out a lot whether it be the future units that I had in the marine corps or even till this day when I'm in charge of some things.

 

When you need someone to work overtime, if they don't like working for you and they don't like their job, what's gonna happen is they're gonna be like, no.

 

I'm good. You know, I've got something going on this and I can't make it. If you're if the people that work for you love working for you, they like you, you are as a person.

 

They like what doing. And they believe in what you believe in and you respect them and their family and you know all the names of their children and not just know it because, you know, you've memorized it, but know it.

 

Because you're actually concerned about those individuals, and they'll do anything for you. And they'll go an extra mile and half the time they block, and you can get a word about paying. I'm I'm I'm doing this as a favor.

 

Mhmm. And so then I went over to the Forcefitness program to help start up that program. Before it was all said and done, we ended up having a horse fitness chief and then you had the lead instructor or the head instructor.

 

So, the chief, they pretty much handled everything with, you know, hey, I'm a gun here, I'm a master sergeant.

 

I got to handle gunning and mess sort of things. They were rarely ever in the picture, honestly. But your head or your lead instructor was really your your go to individual. That was the individual that handled all the operations.

 

They handled all the classes. They also taught classes. Sometimes depending on the staffing, you know, how much we had, they would also teach classes and have their own squad as well.

 

Our leadership at the time was just we didn't have their deletion. And it was coming in on the intercourse boutiques. And this was, of course, it was very first starting off and just kinda getting off the ground.

 

So knew there was gonna be some bumps in the road But the curriculum wasn't as much of an issue as it was people complaining about the the leadership.

 

And so we ended up switching that. And before I left the marine corps, I was the head instructor, and I was the only sergeant that was on the staff at the time.

 

Everybody else was a staff sergeant or a gunnery sergeant and every 1 of the gunnery sergeants and the staff sergeant chose me to be the lead instructor of that course.

 

And I chose a guy named gunnery sergeant Minaz, He hadn't been a force fitness instructor trainer, but for locke, I don't know, 6 weeks.

 

And now all of a sudden, he's the chief of the course. He's a great individual. He respects every rank the way that you should.

 

I know it's gonna be done in a timely manner. But, literally, that was all about instead of saying, hey, go do this, saying, hey, can you do this for me? And then when they do it, say, hey, thanks, man. Appreciate that.

 

Now, that's what I tell my kids. Like, anytime if you're a leader anytime you ever need somebody to do something to you. You say, can you do this for me, please? Please. Always that please. And when they do it, you always say thank you.

 

Alright? And you follow-up on that. That's a huge thing, man, but it sounds really stupid and simple. But those 2 words, please and thank you, mean everything. A week. Well, for the record, it's 3 words.

 

But also, I agree with you. And it makes a huge difference whether in any capacity, you're talking to an employer, employee, worker, family member, sibling, whatever. But I think what's strange is it's softer side of the military.

 

Right? That's the perception anyway. So naturally that's the reality. It's -- Yeah. -- you know, having manners as a decent person makes you a good person, a better person outside of at least my experience in the military.

 

Having manners that make you a good and decent person inside the military based on my experience does not make you as well liked in the military.

 

In fact, it makes you perceptively easier to steamroll. Yeah. That's really true. That's that's wild and you just said that.

 

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Alrighty folks. Welcome back to SDYT the podcast again on Porter. I'm your host sitting here with Cody Anderson talking about respect, courage, and integrity.

 

We've talked about self reliance, we've talked about respecting other people, respecting yourself, We've talked about other people working with you, as coaches, as mentors, as teachers, as guides, father figures, in any number of capacities to help you build your value system and strengthen your character because that's how you're gonna handle whatever comes up in life.

 

For everybody tuning into the podcast, welcome and Cody. Welcome back, brother. Thank my man. Yeah, dude.

 

So the last piece I think is a pretty important gap that we haven't touched on yet in that entire equation brought it up about coaches earlier where they can see potential in you but you can't really see it in yourself sometimes or at least in the beginning or even if you lose your way in that process.

 

In your experience as a marine as a fighter, working with trainers, working with coaches, just being a human.

 

In your experience and your perspective, how do you foster and grow and develop your potential? I think a a big way that you're gonna develop yourself is by rounding out the noise.

 

And I think most people probably know what I mean by that. We have a lot of things in life that are extractions, whether that be our phone, which is probably the biggest TV, Facebook.

 

Your friends can be a distraction. Sometimes. I can remember being 19, 20 years old, and it seemed like partying was the only thing that you ever cared about.

 

Now I'm 31, I'll be 30 in a couple of months. You know, now the only thing I think about is why I'm able to drink a beer right now.

 

I would, you know, I would probably die. I would just say, my my life is so different now than what it was at 20 years old. And so being by yourself is a huge part in my opinion of your development.

 

Whether that be physical development, when you're going to the gym, working out by yourself, going with no distractions, whether that be probably the most important, which your middle diploma.

 

There's so many times, man, where I'll be working. When you work on a farm, you get really used to working by yourself anyway.

 

You can't afford to pay everybody and their mother to come help you fence or, you know, work cattle or sheep or, you know, whatever it is that you're going to do, or whether it's gardening or whether the patient be.

 

But my routine, every morning, you know, when I get up, first thing I do, I get up, I kill about 20 ounces of water, right off the bat. I go downstairs, I have a green juice that I drink.

 

I go outside and I water our garden. Check on my plants and I I water our garden. And so that's time alone. It's really weird because when you're talking to someone else, you're not talking to yourself.

 

And I know that everybody knows exactly what I'm talking about when I say this. But the way you live your life is it's like you're with people you have yourself, and then you have yourself that you talk to, right, in your head.

 

Yep. And it sounds really stupid, but it's so true. You know, when you're by yourself, even though you say you're talking to yourself, you're really not you're talking to another individual sometimes and hearing all these conversations.

 

It may seem kinda crazy. Sometimes you'll be driving down the road if you're like me and you'd be like talking to yourself out loud, and then you would have been like, oh, crap, man.

 

I would have made a look at this red light. Like, out loud, talking to yourself. You know? So I like singing a song that's different. Talking yourself, people look at you like, Chris. But I think everybody does that.

 

And I think that it being by yourself, is it very, very important for personal development because, again, you don't have all of these distractions around. You're not watching the news with the right wing.

 

You left weed political, this, and political life, or who you believe in, or you don't believe in. It's the same way when you get, you know, mad at your spouse, your significant other, or your boyfriend and girlfriend have a fight.

 

When you go up by yourself and you you're alone, that's when you realize like, man, I'm gonna get you here.

 

Why did I say what I said? No 1 told you to go apologize a lot of times that you're sitting by yourself where you realize I shouldn't have done what I should have done.

 

I don't know what the true definition of maturity is, but I know what Cody's definition of maturity is. I think true definition of maturity to me is someone that is able to control their personal emotions.

 

You know, like why do we call a 16 year old boy that's testosterone is out of the roof? Why do we call him immature? It's not because, you know, he's a 16 year old boy.

 

We're calling immature because when his emotions hit him and he wants to scream and yell, he screams and yells. But when you're 45 years old or you're 30 years old, you have a couple of ideas and that emotion gets you.

 

But if you're still yelling, you're still unsure. But if you kind of swallow that, you're able to control that evaluation. That's where I think the surety really comes into play.

 

And I think you can only develop that type of stuff as if you're by yourself. And, luckily, as a farmer, I've I've spent a lot of time by myself and I'm not saying I'll be something.

 

I'm perfect. I do have some immature moments at times. But I feel I've I've really grown the most when I have to spend the most time by myself.

 

And not only that, when you're going to appreciate people a lot more. That is something that I've really noticed about. My my marriage has gotten better.

 

It sounds really weird too. But, you know, when you get married a lot of times when you're young and my wife is 9 years older than me. So I don't have to deal with a lot of immature things when it comes to stuff like that either.

 

But my point is is when you're young and you get married, it's like, alright, we're going to, you know, in your head, we're going to spend every moment together.

 

I wait to go to the beaches and vacation, and I can't wait to do all this stuff.

 

But all reality, everybody that's been married for a pretty good while knows that that's not true. You get up in the morning, you get some by, and you guys both go to work for 10 or 12 hours a day.

 

And really, the only time you get to see each other is at night when you both come home. At that time, we both wore out. Ready to just go with slaver, eat some food, go to sleep, you might get to watch the next show or 2, and that's it.

 

And then when you have children, guess what? It's even less time. Assessed. I got to go pick this 1 up, taking a ball practice, and then this 1 got a game, and I got to go here.

 

When you're by yourself, and you don't get to see this significant other all in all. When you get to see them, it's more special. That makes sense. Yeah. As long as there's not a lot of distraction when you're by yourself.

 

Exactly. Yeah. Exactly. And I think that that's huge. Yeah. What you just said there is real big, Josh, but When you do get to Sam, you you take advantage of that and you're not playing around your phone the whole time.

 

Or you're not talking to your buddies about whatever. You know, I think that's very, very important.

 

But again, it all it all goes back to spending time by yourself and learning those things about yourself. Creating and causing distance with a purpose. Not not with an intention of making things worse either.

 

Like, you know -- Yeah. -- there's there's a threshold there. Well, I'm gonna get into an argument and then I'm gonna storm outside. Okay. Yeah. Maybe this is an excuse to go official when buddy. Right.

 

Exactly. And then the flip side being, no. Actually, I'm gonna go for a walk so I can clear my head and then we'll come back and talk about it and address it. Is 1 I think aspect to this, let's just call it intentional distancing.

 

But the other aspect like what you're describing I think is important too where you think and you process and at a pace that works for you, not at a pace that society has pushed on you.

 

Yeah. That's very important. I'm glad you said that and I've never thought about that before, but that's really true. At a pace that you're comfortable with because no 1 is determining that pace is different.

 

You had my last fight actually. I got injured. Pretty bad. I I was in a fight with the guy and your listeners. I was an MMA fighter, so it wasn't like I was just some guy were scuffing around on the street immature.

 

Yeah. Yeah. This was a mature shot. Josh, not a mature shot. Well, we were you know, I had a fight with a guy. And I'm 5 9 and I was fighting at a hundred and 70 pounds. Right?

 

So I used to walk around at like 1 99. Got down, can go down even lighter than that, but I used to cut down to 170 to 5. And so for people that don't really follow MMA that much in the UFC or M1 or all these these bigger organizations.

 

A guy that's 595 and 1 70 is tiny. God should have been fighting it like 01:55 or 01:45. Because everybody that pops at 170 is like 6 3 and they cut down to 170.

 

The guy that I was fighting, you know, we weighed in the same day, which is on a Friday and the pots Saturday. So I walk back, you know, that way in at 170, you know, we do our little poses, our little face off.

 

And then the next day, we step into the ring. While I step into the ring, and I'm back up to 185 pounds. This guy is like 6 3. He's, like, you know, 5 or 6 inches taller than me and probably weighs a buck 90, maybe maybe more.

 

Right. Not necessarily muscle bound as I was. Right? But just a big guy. So we started fighting, and my first fight that I had What about submission? And the third round, I've faced a guy that was a wrestler.

 

And so they're like, dude, you're gonna be fine. You know, like, you look like a wrestler, you act like a wrestler, get a big fat neck like a wrestler, like you're, you know, you're you're gonna be fine.

 

Your wrestling's fine. So you're gonna be you're gonna be good. And I was in my first spot. I actually out wrestling the guy that negotiated us alive. And I ended up winning the yeah. I ended up winning the fight because of it.

 

And but I can remember he was shooting on what we call, like, a double leg. Or single eggs. But he's shot in on 1. It's the same way with percentage. So my brown belt and percentage it too as well.

 

A lot of times when people shoot in to take you down and they shoot in on a leg, if you resist it a lot or you or you're you're kind of trying to fight against it too much, what happens is is you can actually put yourself in a worse position.

 

And where you can actually be more successful sometimes is when somebody shoots in on you they do get a leg.

 

If you actually roll with it and kinda go with the motion of their goal, and what happens is it messes up their timing, what we call timing. And it messes up their timing.

 

You can actually are in a, you know, some kind of scramble, and you end up you end up in a better position on what you started. I was in a fight with the first guy, he was shooting on me, and I would kind of do that.

 

I was just gonna go with what he doing, I would always roll out of it, and I ended up taking his back. And that's how I won my first fight. I took his back and ended up getting another submission on him.

 

I choking my conscience. Well, the second fight, guy did kind of the same thing. He wasn't a wrestler, but he was, like, 6 4. The first guy I was, like, I don't know, 05:10, 05:11 at the most.

 

Second guy, Paul's gonna say, 6364 way taller. What I didn't account for was his leverage was, like, his hip height was, like, at my chest. You know, when he shot in for the take down, I was gonna try to roll with it.

 

But when he shot in and got underneath my hips, I thought no big deal. But when he stood up, I like the first guy that I fought, I mean, I was, like, 4 foot off the ground. So when he went to dump me, I went to go brakefall behind me.

 

And when I went to smack the ground behind me, it wasn't it wasn't there. Right. So I reached, it was just air. My arms spun around behind me. And when I landed, I landed my hand the wrong way, my elbow shattered.

 

It's completely dislocated. That's on my shoulder, bunch of ligaments on my shoulder, I tore my elbow all the pieces, a radio bone come completely out, shot out the backs out of my arm.

 

Yes. There was just Yeah. It was it was a rough day. We'll put it that way. Mhmm. I'll never forget it sounded like Velcro.

 

I'll never forget that sound again. Anytime, till this day, I have PTSD somebody ripped an automobile crawl. I'm like, oh, god. Because of that, you know, that noise that I heard in my ears and my my arm is cracked.

 

Yeah. And so, of course, if I immediately ended you know, like, they had to bring out an ambulance, had to go to the hospital, night to reset it, I had to go through a lot of stuff because we're talking about being by yourself.

 

I mean, during this injury, I had everybody in my hometown watch me everybody was tuning online, all my friends I grew up with, people that you know, growing up with, that, you know, would be bullies, you know, or guys that I didn't really like.

 

Now all of a sudden, we're best friends. Right? They're like, oh, yeah. I know Cody Anderson. You know?

 

I know this guy. Yeah. Yeah. Me grew up together. You know? And I'm thinking, like, hey. Like, I don't think this guy April my whole life. Yeah. Right? And now all of a sudden, we're best friends. You know, they're all watching me.

 

I get my family's watching all my friends are watching my wife. It was was there to fight with me. They see me dislocating my elbow in front of thousands of people, and I'll never forget how humiliating it.

 

I was laying in the ring and I it initially happened, there was about 5 seconds where, like, no I didn't feel any pain at all. And then it hit, and then I started screaming. And I was like, blood curdling screamin.

 

Yeah. It's like, oh my gosh. This is the worst ever. And it lasted for about 20 seconds, and then I went in to shop. So then I couldn't do anything. I was like, oh, this is cool. And I was just I was laying in on the canvas.

 

My arm is backwards. And I never you know, I looked up on the big screen And they kept showing me. They just were zooming in. So I'm looking at myself on the big string. They're zooming in on my elbow.

 

It's backwards. You know, I'm just laying there. I can remember looking up and being so humiliated. And then, like, the doctors are coming in, everybody's trying to ask me if I'm okay. And I can't feel any penguins that I'm gonna shock.

 

And I'll never forget. I looked out into the crowd through the cage. So I'm looking through the cage wall. Right? And everybody has their phones out. Right? And I could see those little lights on their phones.

 

Everybody's recording me. And I was like, oh, my god. This is the worst possible thing that could ever happen. Yeah. So they get the stretcher out, you know, they take me out of the stretcher. Everybody's recording me.

 

Especially because I just my whole family had been telling me my whole life, like, don't fight. You don't need to be fighting. You don't need to be doing this. Sure. This is stupid. And then I fought, and then this happens to me.

 

In my head, I was like, oh my god. They're so right. They're so right. I should have been doing this. I was such an idiot. And I look back on that now, and I'm like, man, I'm so glad that I fought.

 

Because I coach, you know, I've won a fight. I lost a fight. III coach M and May now. And coasters in Jitsui, Moitai, and boxing. That was the thing. And I know what it's like now to lose and be humiliated.

 

And that's so important because the I went to, like, 8 months of recovery after that. You know, my elbows took this day, my elbow looks like a golf ball inside of my arm compared to the other 1.

 

Yeah. Because of all the joint, you know, inflammation and scar tissue, I'm like, man, I can tell somebody now what it what's gonna happen lose.

 

Like if somebody loses, I can say, man, listen. You're gonna go through a pretty rough time, and it's what you're gonna feel like.

 

You're gonna feel like you're gonna feel like you're gonna feel like you should have been doing this in the first place and all these things, but it made me so much stronger during that time.

 

And I got back home and I never get my buddies were like, you didn't lose the fight though.

 

You got injured. Know, you didn't lose a fight. Yeah. Yeah. You know, I was like, no, man. I did. In the beginning, I was like, yeah. You're out. You're out. I didn't lose you.

 

I always a while off because of injury. Technically, I didn't lose, though. Like, he didn't beat me, and I was, like, in denial. Right. But the only reason he was Exactly. Yeah. Exactly. Saying that that was the only reason why I lost.

 

Yeah. 6 months later, you know, after sitting in a bed by yourself every single day, having a hush arm, and he did, and then to college, beds and in pain and being by yourself, all day long, I was so depressed, man.

 

It was like, I just come out of the dark place, you know, like, opened up the tunnel door and the lights shined on me when I come out 8 months later, you know. And it was like I finally accepted, like, no. You did lose.

 

Like, if you were in a street fight or you were in a combine a situation overseas or whatever. If someone dislocated your elbow, you would be done for it. You'd be dead. And so once I finally learned to admit that I was wrong, Right?

 

And that that happened to me, like I grew so much from that experience. But again, that was from being by myself. I think a lot of people go through this through relationships.

 

We talk about that noise, but this is a big thing for people that, you know, especially if you're listening to this podcast and you're going through a breakup or something like that.

 

You don't need to go to your friends to ask for their advice because they don't know what you're going through.

 

You know, I hate when someone when I would always be going through it, somebody say, yeah, man. I know exactly I'm like, no, you don't. But you didn't grow up the same way that I did.

 

You may grow similar. She didn't have the same dad as I did. And you didn't have the same mom as I did. Mhmm. You may grow up in the same place, the same family, the same morals, the same value.

 

Everything is different with every human being. That's 1 thing that we can actually say. There's there's not 1 person on the face of lab that is exact same.

 

About 1. Even a twin is different when someone says, yeah, I know exactly what you're going through. They really don't. You only know what you're going through. And sometimes it's hard to express what you're going through.

 

But if you're going through a breakup, in my this is my humble opinion. I don't think it's a good thing to go ask your girlfriends what they think you should do about your ex boyfriend.

 

I don't think it's a good thing for the male partners to go out drinking with their buddies and be like, hey, I'm just going to forget about because you're not. So all that's gonna happen is you're gonna drink.

 

You're gonna be an idiot. When you come back home and you're gonna feel guilty later. It's about being by yourself and learning it's okay to cry, it's okay to whine, male or female, and feel sorry for yourself for a few weeks.

 

Finally, when I came out, I had grown so much, man. I feel like my maturity is just I've become such a different person and grew so much during that time.

 

It made me a better human being. I was a better husband after that. And it just shows you that even though that we think we know everything, how little we know.

 

And there's a good saying that 1 of my buddies, George Lockhart, says it's a lot. He's he's nutritionist for tyson fury and been a nutritionist Ringer, all these different guys around the world.

 

The more you know, the more you find out you don't know. Mhmm. And it's so true. It's like when you get older, I understand now why old man sit on the front porch.

 

And whenever all these kids are acting dumb, they're just looking at them like, man, you're an idiot. Yep. Because they they they they they know, you know, they they fit through life and they have those experiences.

 

And and I think that's well, I just think it's so important to be by yourself sometimes, not always. Right? Because, again, when we talk about earlier, there is a balance it is important to have a good support system.

 

It's also important for you to figure it out yourself. Another thing I like about the Gary V guy that constantly you're talking about us.

 

We're constantly trying to please somebody in most summits, our parents, and sometimes we marry someone because maybe that's who our parents would like us to marry.

 

Maybe that's who we date because that's some of their parents might like us to date -- Mhmm. -- or maybe our friends are certified because that's what their parents want. Your pants are always normal for the best for you.

 

You know, they're going to want you to be untouched, unscathed. That's just not how we learn. It's just not for me going through that experience in MMA and really injured and get so humiliated in front of so many people, man.

 

It made me grow so much. Oh, man. I'm so glad that I I'll deal with a little bit of inflammation. A young lady for that type of experience.

 

Maybe it's coincidental, but I think there's a fine line between humble, humility, and humiliation, where whatever the cause or catalyst is, some sort of external control or maybe it's an internal control, but in any capacity, the cool thing about the root of all of those, in my opinion, is still human.

 

Right? So -- Yeah. That's what sort of lets you know you're growing as a human whether you humble yourself or something else humiliates you or you sort of, I don't know, dish out humility to other people, I guess.

 

It's those moments I think that that make us grow into something something better I don't know a better way to phrase that.

 

2003, I was in a sparring tournament in the battle of Atlanta. I don't remember exactly how many were in my division or age group off the top of my head, but I made it into the quarterfinals bracket.

 

And I got in 5 but watching this other kid all day watching his matches and he was quick but I just I'm faster naturally like you just you just know But I've never seen this kid before and I've never seen me more importantly.

 

I've never watched -- Yeah. -- me, I never recorded me nothing. I just felt faster than what I was seeing him be. Yeah. So naturally he was my next opponent.

 

He kicked my head gear, spun it sideways across my face. As soon as the referee got out of the way, that was the first thing that happened. I fixed it, and the referee it was Tech Wanda, and the refer reason you alright?

 

I said, yeah, I'm good. Yeah. Sure. He won't continue. Yeah. Yeah. I feel fine. He said, alright, go. And the next thing I knew his foot was next to my ear. Second time, I don't think I moved. I don't think I blinked.

 

I I don't remember, actually. No. Not at all. Not at all. And it it wasn't until it wasn't until after the entire tournament had ended that I found out you get 2 points for a kick to ahead and I found out the final score.

 

He had 14. And so the rep ended up calling the fight. I don't remember why and maybe that's indicative, but Yeah.

 

He ended up calling the fight and similar to your experience. Right? I I didn't dislocate my elbow but it was at that point I realized maybe I'm Maybe I'm fast but my perception is not.

 

At any rate, it ended up being a a humbling experience for me. Most times inadvertently, I've ended up in some humbling experiences every few years. Where life just puts them there for you or you caused them or whatever?

 

I think it's all the same men's state like you were talking about, you know, it it shows you that you're outgrowing your capabilities and and sort of shedding your skin, you know, becoming a new use.

 

It's wild, man. It it really is. And I It's crazy how I think our whole life, we always we wonder what our purpose is, and we wonder like, okay, is, you know, is there a God?

 

You know, even for Christians. I'm a Christian, you know, even every now and then it crosses your mind, like, you know, what am I supposed to be doing on earth?

 

What's my purpose here? I think we've all probably had that, you know, that question in our life sometimes, and that I think our purpose sometimes is to to grow and be better.

 

And I know this sounds like a really dumb analogy, but We have stresses in our life just like a plant in your garden does. You have different seasons of the year. Obviously, you have winter, you have summer, fall, spring.

 

What is the purpose of spring? Well, what I tell people is if you think about a plant, when a plant starts to grow up, you know, why does the wind blow? Well, the wind blows because it is creating stress on the plant.

 

Okay? So what do I mean by that? What's creating stress on the plant? Because if that plant is new, its root system is very, very small. When the wind blows, it's gonna blow that plant over in the root system out of now.

 

So what do the roots have to do in order to to stay alive? They have to grow get longer. Just like how we get stressed, analogy wise, from our life, what happens?

 

We have to grow from that stress. So just like how a plant grows its root system down to the ground in order to establish a good base and a foundation, it's a same thing that applies to us whenever we have.

 

Right? I'm just okay to elbow. We go through a divorce or a breakup or we don't get our way or maybe somebody gets promoted at work, and we didn't think they deserved it and we should have got it.

 

Alright. Whatever stress that that is, just like the wind blowing, we have to grow and overcome that.

 

Well, the the season of summer, why does that exist? Right? Why does the season of summer exist? Well, the reason why is because now, guess what?

 

It's the hottest time of the year, which is drought. So now there's drought during the summertime. Guess what? All of the stress, right, that you had during the springtime, the wind, what happened?

 

It allowed that root system to grow deep in the ground. Correct? Well, moisture is holes deeper into the ground than it does higher from the surface. Because the sun hits the ground, and it dries out the top of the ground.

 

All that you've been working for your whole lot, all that stress, now you can survive the sun, essentially, is an analogy. Because your roof system has went deeper into the herb because of the wind.

 

So now during the summertime when there's drought, you don't you don't need as much water. Because that that roof system is sunk into the ground and it's built a good foundation for you now.

 

And then the fall comes. Alright. So what's the purpose of the fall? The the only reason for wind in the fall is for you to plant new seed. I extend the seeds fall off from the fall from the plant. When they fall off, we'll guess what?

 

Now instead of those seeds being just, you know, right beside you, the reason for the wind and the fall is to carry those seeds to other places Why do you apply that to the analogy of your life? Well, you need to plant new seed.

 

We talked about that in the very beginning of the podcast. You need to reach out if you have these stress and experiences. In life, you need to help other people that are going through those types of things.

 

You need to reach out. You need to be the wind now. Right? You need to reach out and and be able to touch people and plant new seed in new places. Then you you talk about the wintertime.

 

Right? Now everything goes dormant. Well, when everything goes dormant, that's when we need a rest. We need a rest period of life. There are times that you need rest. And we need to kind of chillax chill out a little bit.

 

Not only that during the wintertime you get a thing, all the leaves are on the ground now. Okay? So you need that new that new biomass it's creating new dirt like a leaf falls on the ground. It composts and turns into dirt, essentially.

 

And that's what allows that seed to grow back up in the wintertime and start the whole process So and it again, it sounds really dumb, but I just look at how God's created all these things for us in life.

 

I'm like, man, we're just locked a little baby broken plate. Growing in the garden. You know, there's there's no difference between us and that. It doesn't matter necessarily what the stress is.

 

There's when you're in rainy heat or whatever it is. At the end of the day, it's all to help us be better. And through our stresses and experience, help us to help someone else. Withdrawnger for each other.

 

Yeah. And that's the cycle about it, right? As growing as humans, once you set a decent foundation, I don't wanna say plant roots and still your analogy, but now I'm stuck on it. I can't think of anything else.

 

But once once plant roots is a solid foundation and you raise your kids back to your initial point, build and design your family in a way that encompasses, you know, what what you and your your spouse or your significant other, determined to be appropriate and effective and preferred values for example so that your offspring adopted step half biological kids whatever can grow and impact other people, you know?

 

And then Perfect there. In yeah.

 

And then then those 18 to 25 years where they're well, I guess 16 to 25 years where they're with their families and and essentially living off of them, they're growing their own roots and learning how to deal with hardship and stress in heat and rain and wind.

 

Yeah. I like that, man. There's a lot of wisdom when it comes to farming.

 

Even though I think the back to our initial point of backwards thinking in the military, even though I think the general conception is or general perception is the dirt farmers or the dumb So there's something to be said for that, man.

 

But for the time being, I really appreciate you making some time to sit here and as it turns out, carry this entire podcast didn't have to do too much. I appreciate your input. I told you man I had ADHD.

 

I told you I could go. Yeah. No. I appreciate your input. And and just contributing it, man. There's a lot of people in the world that listen to podcasts and any number of them are likely to hear what you gotta say.

 

And it may just be that 1 person that, you know, this windy little podcast carried your information to that's gonna help them succeed and grow some roots later.

 

So I I really appreciate it. I'm getting at. So thank you. Absolutely, man. I appreciate Josh. Thanks for having me on.

 

I'm listening to a few of your podcasts already and this is the first podcast I've actually got to to be a part of. So I appreciate you giving me a shout. Taking enough of me. I hope I made at least a little bit of an impact for you.

 

When you thought about me and the Marine Corps to call me about it, I had a good time and I really did. It's not often that you get to sit down with guys and really talk about personal things like this.

 

I think that in the world with those kind of feelings and touchy things, you know, are just meant for women to talk about, but I feel like men a lot of times we don't talk about it.

 

Enough. I think it's really neat that you can sit down in a podcast environment like this.

 

I really do appreciate you. You know, you let me have opportunities -- Yeah. -- talking about some things and nothing we don't get talking about all the time.

 

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