Laura Brennan Ballet Unlocks Your DNA of Potential

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Imagine being able to look at any challenge and instantly see it as a pathway to greater potential rather than a limiting obstacle. That's the transformative perspective Laura Brennan Ballet brings to this enlightening conversation. Laura and her brother Christopher have developed a formula that transforms how people respond to challenges, tested with everyone from Olympic athletes to seven-year-old gymnasts to 75-year-old retirees. All humans possess extraordinary capabilities waiting to be unleashed. The key? Learning to position yourself in what she calls "the power seat of choice" through five principles: awareness, willingness, self-accountability, critical thinking, and energy management.

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An SDYT Media Production I Deviate from the Norm

00:00 - Introduction to Transacting Value

02:26 - Meet Laura Brennan-Ballet: Evolutionary Human

12:22 - Understanding Limiting Beliefs and Potential

17:36 - The Science Behind Empowerment

24:19 - The J3 Equals Formula Principles

32:55 - Value Systems and Personal Growth

42:35 - The Power of Listening and Breaking Patterns

48:00 - You Are the Power: Final Insights

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Welcome to Transacting Value, where we talk about practical applications for instigating self-worth when dealing with each other and even within ourselves, where we foster a podcast listening experience that lets you hear the power of a value system for managing burnout, establishing boundaries, fostering community and finding identity.

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My name is Josh Porthouse, I'm your host and we are redefining sovereignty of character.

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This is why values still hold value.

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This is Transacting Value.

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They don't look at limitations.

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They look at how can we recalibrate a present challenge and improve on it.

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And I think if human beings had that mindset, we would collectively be a more advanced civilization than we are.

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Today on Transacting Value.

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What are your limiting beliefs, and are they always bad?

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How can you use those beliefs to ground a foundation that can give you the empowerment you need to succeed?

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Today's conversation.

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We're talking with the host, author and empowerment facilitator of the Science of Empowerment brand, laura Brennan-Ballet.

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I'm Josh Porthouse, I'm your host and from SDYT Media this is Transacting Value.

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Laura, how are you doing?

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I'm doing fabulously.

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We were already talking, having a great conversation.

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Challenges are on the rise, but I choose to be fabulous.

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Josh, you have to.

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Well, I guess.

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No, you don't.

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You don't have to, it is a conscious choice.

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Yeah, absolutely so.

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Can we start here for a second?

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I've never heard of anybody, self proclaimed or otherwise, actually being titled an empowerment facilitator and, at the risk of believing my own assumptions here, I need you to clarify if you got a couple minutes, so let's just start here.

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Who are you?

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Where are you from?

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What sort of things have shaped your perspective to get you into this path?

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The floor is yours.

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So I consider myself an evolutionary human.

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I really like to kind of ignite unlimited potential at every corner.

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My brother, christopher, and I have been like this since we were kids.

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I include him in.

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I always love to acknowledge him.

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He's the creator of the J3 equals E formula, which really sparked the writing of the science of empowerment.

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That really has become such a passionate mission and my brand.

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So we just we thought we were superheroes when we were kids.

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Funny little quick story.

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We used to drag the mattresses off our bed out the front door.

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Funny little quick story.

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We used to drag the mattresses off our bed out the front door, find a way up onto the roof, jump off, thought we could fly Small part of the roof.

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We weren't silly, we weren't stupid, but we really did feel that we had something in us that was magical and we just never doubted our potential.

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And no matter how we kind of communicated this with our parents, they never shut it down.

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They never were like, oh no, you can't think that way or that's impossible.

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They just were like, ok, cool, carry on.

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So yeah, I had childhood issues.

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We're regular kids but for some reason I had this unique ability to look outside of the challenge and recalibrate it into something that would empower me.

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It's just the way my brain, I think, functioned and maybe, rather than split off into, say, alcoholism or drug addiction and all of that way of becoming, I went into a very empowered exploration and I found that that empowered other people around me and that was a really beautiful exchange.

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So you know, I live in Connecticut.

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I have an amazing husband, two beautiful daughters, one of them is quite challenging.

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I have an amazing husband, two beautiful daughters, one of them is quite challenging, if I may add that in, I try to sell her on occasion but nobody will buy her.

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It's a family joke, but I love what I do.

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I just love what I do and I'm fearless and I want everyone else to feel what that feels like, that there's no hard stops, we really don't answer to anyone, and to challenge the present condition and go beyond it, I feel um is like our right.

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Why we're in physicality and I also believe coded in our, our DNA is untapped genius.

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I really do, and I think we find that that's almost in and of itself a challenge to think that I am brilliant or I have a genius, or I have a spark of all of creation and we see these outliers and we think they're so far, right away from us, but they're really not.

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They just tapped into it and they carried on.

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And so I like to you know whether I'm coaching one-on-one or speaking on virtual stages around the world.

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Whatever I'm doing, I just like to bring that up kind of on the onset if I have the opportunity.

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So, thank you that we're all really unique, beautiful, special individuals, though we have lots of commonalities.

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But don't go through life thinking that this is just what it is.

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It can be so much more.

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OK, let me break this apart for a second Untapped potential living outside challenges or outside the challenge.

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What do those have to do with each other?

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Is there a correlation, a causation, a relation at all, or are they just two separate and parallel concepts that you think are impactful and empowering?

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What's the relationship?

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Yeah, a little little bit, of course, of what you just said.

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But yes, I think that so many of us are really seated with the mindset that challenge is supposed to be something that is up against us.

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And I think when we live outside of the challenge and we look at it with a higher level of intelligence ie potential possibility, unlimited thinking now we get to have more directive over the outcome and the experience while we're going through it, so we're less at the mercy of it and we're authorizing more of the outcome, and so I think it's all entwined and it's all connected.

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It's just how do we look at it?

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And reminding everyone that it's okay.

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If you've thought about something in a very specific way for decades, it's also okay to release that thinking process.

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It's also okay to release that thinking process and redesign a whole new thought process, something that will actually move the needle for you.

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It's just kind of the way my brain is wired.

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It seems to have been pretty, but you didn't, and so now I'm going to put you in a position where you have to kind of occasion.

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Or we can look at that perspective as it's.

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Ok that I missed it along the way, but now my awareness is a little bit more tuned in and it caught my attention more than it ever has.

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And now ask yourself how come?

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Why is that showing up and kind of catching me?

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Maybe that's my indicator to do something about it.

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I don't live like in past regrets, coulda, shoulda, woulda, all right, it's done, it is it's done.

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Energy, it's over.

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Right.

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We can't recalibrate what we did, you know, a day ago or 12 years ago.

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I think the key is when you just feel that moment of awareness and you recognize it now, rather than let the pattern keep sliding by right and just be on automatic.

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Now you, you look at it.

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Why is that resurfacing?

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Why is that reappearing?

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And now, what can I do about it?

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How can I empower that particular challenge so that I can empower the rest of my life?

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Wait a minute, did you say?

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In power In yeah, so I.

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I, I N, I empower myself every day in order to empower my day, if that makes any sense.

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Yeah, there's two different.

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I look at it very differently.

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Yeah, I actually just um copywriting in power to empower.

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I have a book that I want to write on this, and I really came upon this discovery that to in power, this internal power, really is something that is so individualized, but it's open and free to all of us, and when we take the time to take in information and really apply it, it becomes knowledge, and then this knowledge has the ability to empower em others, and so it's an individualized journey to be in service for the collective, and that's just how I look at it.

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Okay, and then you said untapped potential to facilitate that process.

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Genetically is the initial reference you made.

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What are you talking?

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about.

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What does that?

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mean, yeah, so many places I go and people I talk to, and you've been around the world you find that people really have this limited mindset.

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They just think this is it.

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I was raised a certain way, I got married at a certain time, I went for this job.

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They, it's like this stagnation.

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They they're like this is it.

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And there's so much more beyond that.

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And that's in that zone of potential, Like why would you think this is all?

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There is what's going on in the train of thought that you cannot recalibrate it, re-engineer it, redesign it, whatever word fits the vernacular.

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But why would you think this is it?

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And so I really am curious about that.

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And even with my clients, when you know they come to me and you know you can feel it right away there's a lot of outside blame.

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There's a lot of kind of subconscious resigning of contracts, emotional, mental contracts in the mind, and then these patterns ensue, Right, and then a belief system that becomes a value system, becomes part of who we think we are, and then we just accept it.

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And for me it's going all back in there and really think about the structure of DNA and cellular makeup and biology communication right In the body, the mind, the consciousness.

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There's so much more there, how can there not be?

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And for me it's going all back in there and really think about the structure of DNA and cellular makeup and biology communication right In the body, the mind, the consciousness.

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There's so much more there, how can there not be?

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There's no end to right how we can think and what we can do with that thought sure.

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Sure, but some of that I'm assuming, I guess anthropologically has to be rooted in some degree of bias or cultural.

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Whatever traditions, stories know, whatever you're raised around, it's just what you know, and until you have some degree of inspiration or exposure to something other than the pattern you've gotten accustomed to, you don't think to ask any other questions and you don't know that there are other options.

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So is a limiting belief always a bad thing, or is it just the reality of circumstance?

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Yeah, I don't think anything.

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I mean, unless it's a very hurtful or harmful, of course, situation.

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I don't look at a limiting belief as a negative.

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I look at it as contrast to its opposition.

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We may not know the opposition, but, as you just said, there's podcasts, there's books, there's so much education available.

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Get curious, seek it out and know that what you think is isn't actually what is.

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It's a moment in time that you've just again been on repeat and there's something beyond that.

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So it's again.

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This is around thought energy.

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This is what I'm really focusing on and starting to specialize in as looking at the structure of energy around thought and not looking at it as a belief, as limiting hard stop, oh, that's been a limiting belief for a long time Now.

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What I've been introduced to this podcast, or this speaker, or this coach, et cetera, wow, let me expand the perspective.

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Let me invite in something new.

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Let's see what gets ignited.

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What can I spark new?

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Let's see what gets ignited.

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What can I spark Again.

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Let's have some fun, let's get curious, let's really push that zone of potential so I can be creative.

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I firmly believe that's why we are in physicality, right.

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We can take thought and manifest it into things.

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How cool is this?

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Now, I don't know what's before, what's after.

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Everybody's got their own beliefs.

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God, energy, universal energy, spiritual energy.

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It's all beautiful to me.

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What happens if?

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And then fill that in.

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All I know is right now, we can think of something and we can create it, Of course, within reason, but we have a gentleman right now.

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We can think of something and we can create it, of course, within reason, but we have a gentleman right now.

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No political conversation.

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Right, shooting rockets up in the air, looking to terraform another planet.

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Right, we have ideas of possibility, even if they're not in abundance.

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We look at our Einsteins and we look at, right, our Tesla and we look at an Elon Musk.

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I'll just use that as an example.

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Right, they don't look at limitations, they look at how can we recalibrate a present challenge and improve on it, and I think if human beings had that mindset, I think we would collectively be a more advanced civilization than we are.

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Okay, all right, what do we do with that insight then?

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So you talk about thought energy, and then I see your book, your podcast, your brand is the science of empowerment, not the art of creating empowering thought energy, right?

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So what of that is the science then?

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I assume rooted in fact or formula or, you know, proven scientific method type processes.

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How do you qualify that against thought energy?

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Yeah, so thought energy is embedded into the science of empowerment.

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The way we think has direct causation on how we feel.

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How we feel has direct causation on how we react, respond or interact.

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Sure.

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So when we kind of again hone in on that awareness around our thinking process, now we get to begin to empower our experiences.

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My particular science around empowerment comes from a very specific formula formula.

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My brother, christopher, created this formula as he was a USA gymnastics coach training Olympians, and he started to understand what makes that person, usually very young, have the ability to do 10,000 skills, a giant on a bar, in order to win a medal.

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And what are we missing within the human condition that the average person doesn't have that same mindset?

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And so when I started observing him with these champions, I kind of understood that they were already primed at a very young age.

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Right, they didn't go to proms.

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A lot of them didn't have boyfriends or girlfriends, right, they were in a facility just focused with mad energy to create something amazing for themselves and represent their country.

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I wanted to know what would it be like to create a formula that everyday people could feel like a champion, as a mother, a father, a sibling, a neighbor, someone in the community?

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How can we kind of tweak this formula and move it into a more simplistic application?

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And we do.

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We have a neuromuscular training facility application.

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And we do, we have a neuromuscular training facility.

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We have seven-year-old kids that come in and start training gymnastic style, training every kind of athlete my brother's trained NBA of baseball players, all of it and there's no difference.

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When we show them the formula, they understand it.

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Five principles, three fields of energy they get it.

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I can position myself into the power seat of choice.

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I get to choose whether I'm seven or 75.

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I get to choose how I'm going to learn, how to respond rather than react.

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I'm going to understand what negative energy looks like.

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I'm going to enact the superpower of neutrality, calm the pattern down.

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Now to springboard from neutrality to positivity is very easy.

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It really is, and you run through the formula.

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So there is a formula that works.

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I know this from over 10,000 hours of coaching.

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There is a formula that works.

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I know this from over 10,000 hours of coaching and it's amazing what it does to the mindset development of people that are at least willing to see how can I shift something that hasn't really brought me fulfillment or happiness or calm in my life.

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So you have to be willing, right, and you have to be open.

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New perspectives, release the limited thinking Again, curious, excited, have some fun, really get creative on what you can do while we're here for a very short time, under a hundred year span.

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Make it count, yeah.

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Yeah, but now it sounds like this works well for people that already have a proclivity for systems and patterns, and so for the people who necessarily don't learn the same way, I assume the outcome is going to be similar, based on your explanation.

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But how do you explain it then in a way that makes sense to them, if they're like this is boring, yeah, like I get the results, but I just can't make sense of the material.

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I've never.

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I've never had that happen to me yet.

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I've never had that equated to any of any conversation, whether I'm at a cocktail party, a barbecue, on a plane traveling to Europe, where the conversation comes up all the time.

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I've never had anyone say that.

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And real quick, I've got a fabulous little story.

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So we have a girl.

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Her name is Brooklyn.

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She was seven when she started with us.

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I think she's 14 or 15 now.

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She used to come in.

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She was just kind of like a little princess, right Typical little girl, and just didn't want to get up at six or 7 AM and start working the skills.

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She's actually now a regional and national champion, trained with my brother, and she would come in and, oh, she had a little pout on her face and I always had this really cool kind of synergy with her as she came into what we call the cage before she got to coach Chris and I would be like let's go, brooklyn, we got some girl power going on.

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Come on now, look at the principles on the wall negative, positive, neutral.

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Which one are you?

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And let me remind you, you can position yourself into the power seat of choice and I would talk to her with intelligence, like you've got this Very quickly.

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She realized that she was dragging in to her practice attitude, right Belief that maybe I'm not good enough, I don't want to be here, I'd rather be home watching cartoons, whatever her story was, and I used to tell her put the story outside the cage.

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She eventually figured out when she came in and we would lock eyes.

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She knew if she wasn't in a good space.

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She'd look at me and she'd be like hold on, coach Laura.

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She'd walk out the door.

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Okay, she was seven years old.

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She'd come back in, smile.

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I'd be like what'd you do?

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She goes, I left negative Bob outside, seven years old.

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She knew I'm carrying the attitude, the energy.

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She couldn't formulize the emotion and psychological impact.

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She knew the energy and she'd come in and the rest is history.

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And I've had clients from seven to 75.

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I have someone right now, a gentleman, and his whole life is changing At 75, his relationship with his son, with his grandchildren, breaking lifelong patterns and beliefs, because he realizes I've carried it and I can release it cool yeah, it's really okay so that's, that's the empowerment.

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Then I got it.

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Now the science, I'm with you.

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What about the circumstance?

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So bringing it sort of into maybe a bit different practicality here for a second, most of my career professionally, let's say most of my career has been in the us military with the marine corps.

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Most of career has been in the US military with the Marine Corps, most of which has been in the infantry, and so a lot of what we excel at happens to not be self-awareness and personal development.

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In fact, it's more common to tank all of our relationships that aren't professional and there's a lot of people in positions with very similar circumstances.

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People in positions with very similar circumstances, maybe not outcomes, but very similar circumstances.

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In my opinion, based on this sort of enduring exposure to high stress, occupational well stressors out of necessity, and so everything else, is that much more impactful.

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You bring it home.

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It's difficult to separate work from your family life or, to whatever degree, help them to align better, and oftentimes then the outcomes happen to be divorce, more coping strategies or alcoholism or whichever, and in some circumstances the awareness of the amount of control each of us has to change that perspective totally dissipates, or at least there's some sort of dissonance between where it is and where it actually stands.

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How do you recommend working through some of that?

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I understand you've got a business right, but but as advice, as a recommendation, because until, like you said, people are ready and willing or I guess, able and willing and ready they won't, and so this step has to sort of self-soothe first right.

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Yeah, this is, I'll say, a vulnerable and sensitive topic.

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My dad is a Marine, so I know a little bit about the mindset around this.

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We all know David Goggins right, he's the high level example of what creates somebody to go down or rise to that level.

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And you know we have to take into consideration, as you said, coping mechanisms and the right care and coaching and therapies for those this is not to say come out of that intense style of experience, just get coached and be empowered.

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I myself have never been on a front line and carried a gun and served my country in that manner, so I would not at all want to dishonor anything with a conversation.

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But there you asked about you know circumstances and first sentence in the book is regardless of the conditions in which encounters happen or the reasons why something profoundly changes us or how the messages within the story are conveyed, you are in a position to grow beyond your present state of mind.

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Period.

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Oh, in the first sentence.

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That's the first sentence in the book, on page 19.

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Oh, in the first sentence.

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Those are the.

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That's the first sentence in the book, on page 19.

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Individuality, chapter one, and that is an indicator of what's to come.

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You can.

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So now we would have to go into this is awareness.

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You can grow beyond that present moment.

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Second principle of the J3 equals formula is willingness.

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Are you willing?

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Now, when we move into that, right, when we start to study that environment of I'm unwilling and then right, that's where coaching comes in.

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Yeah, I'm willing, but, and then there's all those variations within there, then we go into the third principle, which is self-accountability.

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You can stay stuck, stay in that mindset, stay in that limited thinking, stay connected to alcoholism or drug addiction or divorce or bad relationships, whatever, operating at your highest and best, and this isn't again to make everyone feel like, oh, I have to be something big in order to tap into that part of me.

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You know it could be just being yourself in your own life and knowing that you're tapping into that.

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So when we take that self accountability truly within the formula and my coaching, we stop blaming any outside condition, we suspend it all to the outside, which actually leaves room now to take accountability for ourself, because we're not allowed in certain sessions.

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No, my mother, my father, my country, religion, politics, economics, economics.

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We put it all out.

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We just stay focused right here, zone of potential, right tapping into the dna structure of potential, knowing that you can change the mindset, you can grow, evolve, elevate and develop.

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All righty folks sit tight and we'll All righty folks sit tight and we'll be right back on Transacting Value.

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All righty folks.

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If you're looking for more perspective and more podcasts, you can check out Transacting Value on Weeds Across America Radio.

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Listen in on iHeartRadio, odyssey and TuneIn.

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Know my mother, my father, my country, religion, politics, economics.

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We put it all out.

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We just stay focused right here, Zone of potential, right Tapping into the DNA structure of potential, knowing that you can change the mindset, you can grow, evolve, elevate and develop.

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Then we go into the fourth principle critical thinking.

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This is where we learn to take the emotionality out of the thought process long enough to insert a little bit higher of intellectual thinking, just a little, just to plant the seed, and then you can bring back the emotion, because we all understand we can't shift like that, especially when there's patterns embedded for a long time.

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And then we go into the fifth principle energy.

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Negative, positive, neutral.

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Which one are you?

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And if you're answering negative more than neutral or positive, well, let's get to work.

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Simple.

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It really is.

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We complicate it because we're humans and it's built into the human condition right To self-inflict drama and chaos and disruption, and we get patterned in fights and we pick the wrong people and we, you know, stay in jobs we don't like.

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It's just built in.

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I look at things from a higher perspective.

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What happens if it's built in to get us to evolve?

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Nothing else.

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It's built in only to trigger a higher level of self-awareness, a higher level of willingness, a higher level of self-accountability, a higher level of critical thinking and a higher level of understanding that energy is in everything and you are energy beings.

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Without energy, we're not here.

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Sure.

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So then it basically goes from a state of mind into a state of being and then it's in your control.

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You've got ownership, you've got accountability, you've got whatever you want to do with it discernment, anything, okay.

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And not saying it's easy and simple.

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And again, don't feel bad if you're thinking well, negative, positive, neutral, oh I can't change, no, we're.

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The conversation is to spark the awareness into thinking beyond your present thought process, like, oh, maybe I can heal that relationship, maybe I can learn to respond rather than react.

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We all know road rage and we're frustrated and you know the world is quite challenging.

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We all know what this feels like when we're off.

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Our energy is just, it's really distorted.

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But now you know well, maybe I could read a book, maybe I can become coachable, maybe I can tune into a podcast and just kind of sit with that for a while.

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Let me give it a try and maybe life can become more than it is right now.

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Okay.

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Well then, based on what you just said, for something to become more than it is, you have to start out with what's the baseline, so you know where to build, what to build, how to build and move forward and move through.

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So this is a segment of the show called developing character.

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D d d, developing character.

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And now this is a two question segment, as vulnerable as you care to be, laura, totally up to you.

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But you mentioned earlier and this is for anybody new to the show, laura you mentioned earlier and this is for anybody new to the show, laura you mentioned earlier that and I'm paraphrasing but that belief systems can become value systems.

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My working hypothesis actually reverses that, and so I think values not only ground us, our cognition or our beliefs to a certain degree, and then also obviously guiding our actions I agree with your flow there but that they're also a shortcut to our identity and to our relationships and the conversations.

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And so, to me, everything you're describing on a natural level and genetic level still was nurtured as you grew, so you could learn the vocabulary, the perspective to present it effectively to whoever your audience happens to be or whatever age your audience happens to be.

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And so I'm curious, though, where maybe some of those things started from started from, and so my first question is what were some of the values that you were raised on or remember being exposed to while you were growing up?

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You think that contributed to this whole passion and process of yours.

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Yeah, I love that question.

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So again, full transparency.

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People meet me or listen to me or we interact and they think, oh, everything must have been pretty darn smooth for you.

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No, no, no, no.

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So I really want to be honest.

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I am speaking from a perspective and an actual reality of some pretty hardships growing up, as I shared with you.

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There was just an ability to look at the hardships and recalibrate them into something different than bringing me into the negative realm.

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We were taught to value love, family, tradition and even though there were things going on that were disruptors to all of that, we knew at the end of the day we were loved, whether it was by our parents, my grandmother, especially friendships, family.

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We knew that birthdays and Christmas and holidays and big Easter dinners, and if our fathers were moving into new businesses, my uncle was opening another new restaurant, whatever it would be, we gathered, we celebrated, even if things were off.

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We had the grounding of that value system family of tradition.

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I still have it to this day full transparency to be vulnerable.

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When my brother came into the home that my husband and I created and renovated this is kind of funny that we're talking about this he sat in the living room and he said you did it, you brought a little bit of her childhood into your home the tradition, the bookcases, the pictures, the artwork.

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We knew what he was referencing.

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I knew what he was referencing.

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He said he never lost it.

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So the value of aesthetic beauty that represents life, that represents life memories, those are the things that really helped and they serve me now still where I am, decades later, and I think we all have value systems that we can look at.

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And even for those that have had deep challenges, I'm working with someone now that was in the foster care system and it was not a nice experience of her life and we keep searching for just a spark of what she can value, because then that does give her hope and belief that not everybody is cruel, not everyone is bad, and that even though some experiences are really debilitating to our natural beauty of who we are as humans, it's not forever taken away, that we can dig deep, we can take that exploration, we can discover that beautiful moment of just creation and we can get back to that and learn how to make that a new.

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Even if you're 32 or 47 or 56 or 16, what has happened does not define you, unless you believe it does define you.

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I love that point that you're.

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I feel exactly the same way.

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Your past doesn't have to define you, but it can refine you and I think that's a very similar circumstance to what you're describing, at least in perspective.

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I love it, okay.

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So my second question then tradition, family love, what you were raised on and obviously still holding that now, but all of these podcasts you've been on, the research for your book, the people clients you've worked with, spoken to throughout your life experiences you had what's changed?

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Any new values now that you're older?

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Anything that's something you've maybe discovered realign yes, I'm learning to value the skill of listening differently than I used to.

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So I used to think that I valued listening because it was the polite thing to do, right?

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So we were raised, you know, in a little bit in that way and then I learned to value the skill of listening, to learn, to grow, to evolve it.

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It makes me a better human.

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And so when I'm out somewhere because in all honesty and this is not an egoic statement I read a lot, I study a lot, I observe a lot and I have a lot to share.

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That doesn't mean everyone wants to hear what I have to share, but when people do, I have a lot to share.

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I love life, I love my presence in the world and I feel amazing being a part of the collective in this timeframe.

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But when I'm out, I listen differently now and I pick up cues differently.

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And I'll take a moment.

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If I can kind of hear, like people in a grocery store or a shopping aisle and you can feel a little bit of that disruptive energy, and if I feel it's appropriate, I might break it for them oh, excuse me, can do you mind if I get that?

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And it breaks the pattern, and then I may look and say, wow, I love, I love your jacket.

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Or oh, if you guys haven't tried, it sounds very simple, but it breaks the pattern for them and one moment of a break in a pattern for another human actually seeds the break.

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They may not remember it as that, but somewhere maybe in their mind they'll remember god.

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We were having a little bit of a disagreement out in public.

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Do you remember when that woman walked in the store and asked us about some recipe?

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I was thinking about that the other day, you know, we stopped arguing and we started talking about recipes and it changed the whole.

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This is.

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I share this because sometimes people hear me speak or they read the book and they think it has to be complicated and, to go back to what we were saying before, it isn't.

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You can make really big changes with the smallest of effort and it helps the entirety.

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I think.

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Raise the vibration, or the frequency, the energy of our world, and I think that's important and that's not saying it in any well.

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You can take it however you want a religious way, a God way, a universal way, a spiritual way, but I look at it as a human way and it's important to know that.

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You know we all struggle, we all have challenges, but there are ways to free ourselves from those patterns.

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It's just there are and don't stay stuck, you don't need to.

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All right, folks sit tight and we'll be right back on Transacting Value

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You know we all struggle, we all have challenges, but there are ways to free ourselves from those patterns.

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There are, and don't stay stuck, you don't need to.

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That's powerful in itself.

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You could put that on a bumper sticker.

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Yeah, it'd be.

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It'd be a big bumper sticker, but you could it's.

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that is powerful and don't say yeah, you know, there's a book.

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Have you ever heard of Becoming Human?

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Yes, so, for anybody who hasn't, if you're unfamiliar written by a guy I'm pretty sure yes, he's dead now, I think 20 some years, but it's a relatively recent book.

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It's called Becoming Human, by a man named Jacques Barnier, and he talks basically about a similar process in concept, where paying attention to other people, helping other people, helps you become aware of yourself and then, in turn, it sort of begets its own cycle.

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There's a lot of application in what you're saying, but there's a lot of depth in, I think, how it comes across.

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So, for the sake of time, this is one of my last few questions for you.

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But if you had to simplify the power of what you're describing and for the record you can't just use your formula and cheat the answer If you had to simplify this concept of thought, energy and empowerment and the good it can do for you and other people and how to raise your awareness around it, into one or two sentences, how can people increase their awareness and do this to help themselves?

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How would you do that?

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Yeah, I have a few words at the end of the book that readership around the world.

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When I was selling the book first out personally on my website because I wanted that experience, I didn't want to go at an opportunity with a big publisher, but I'm like I'm going to lose the connection if I do that from the get-go, and that wasn't the point it was.

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I want to know, like if you ordered the book, you could go on my website, you can text me and you can say oh my God, I read this, I loved this.

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I'm confused about this and I would answer probably the first.

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You know a couple thousand people before I went on Amazon and there's a quote that I find a lot of people consistently have looked at.

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That they say has changed their life, changed their mindset, and it is.

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Do not glance changed their life, changed their mindset, and it is.

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Do not glance at the power, become the power, and this, for me, is all about empowering self in order to empower the collective, and it is very simple you are that power and it is very simple.

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You are that power, you just are.

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You are living, breathing energy.

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However you think you got here, however, synchronicity, coincidence, where you come from, where you're going, none of it matters.

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